I tought I had 3 good friends until I stopped smoking weed. But to do it just for fun? I was addicted to weed for over 4 years, I am now 1 week clean. Congrats! And I think that’s a fair assumption to make. Visit our live blog for the latest updates Coronavirus news live. If I meet someone new that I get on with, the really important thing will be for me to follow up – suggest going for a coffee, a drink or to see a film, any situation where you can chat on a deeper level. Joking aside, I have like 5 friends and only talk regularly to 2, and one of them is moving outside the country. All of these other reasons aren’t necessarily bad things – it’s healthy to grow up and find out who you are, and friendships are going to shift because of it. There's no one better to accompany you than yourself. When you communicate your true feelings to someone else, then you’re going to have to acknowledge them yourself. Needy for stimulating conversation and values in common. And don't forget, your future self is sitting down and reading what you wrote. Students occupy Manchester Uni after being threatened with huge fines over rent, Strictly's Nicola Adams axed from show as Katya Jones tests positive for coronavirus, Melania Trump links arms with serviceman instead of Donald amid divorce claims. And people will notice. I get a lot of happiness from my relationship with my two sisters, one of whom is my absolute best friend, and I am quite self-contained with plenty of interests such as blogging and volunteering. There is zero possible chance that every one of your few friends went to high school, college, and grad school, and had their first job in the same city. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. I’ve heard it can be harder to make friends as you get older but I’m grateful for the fact I’ve had the chance at least to reassess where I am and how I got here. The daily lifestyle email from Metro.co.uk. We all have crazy fucked up lives and were all just trying to balance it. Like, big time. I rarely invite people out because I assume they'll just say no, I rarely ask for help because I feel like they'll see me as a burden. I've been let down a couple times so now I won't reach out to anybody for help when I need it. They are honestly great people and when we broke up they extended their friendship still but I feel like it's out of obligation and not genuine. If you are looking around and feeling like a huge, big, giant loser because you have no friends – then your self-awareness is high enough to even notice something has shifted. When you are actually supposed to be RELAXING? He definitely has friends, though like a lot of men they don’t communicate much apart from an annual get together. Yeah, those people that will actually allow themselves to be inconvenienced for the sake of helping others are rare. I suspect people pick up on this and may be subconsciously pushed away by it. It wasn’t a devastating discovery, as I’m really quite content with my lot, but it led me to wonder how I have ended up this way. ?, followed by a WHAT WOULD YOU TELL A CLIENT IN THIS SITUATION? She can also help you make peace with your friendship situation or try to change anything you deem possible. I've been getting closer to some friends I've made IRL though. Would she still look at me the same? One of them went off to college and is just too busy these days, only to get busier in the coming years. It’s sad, yes, but it’s also liberating to be able to spread your wings and live your life wherever suits you best. Press J to jump to the feed. She’s not going to think, “Hmm, this embarrassing thing makes her a loser” and leave. I've been let down a couple times so now I won't reach out to anybody for help when I need it. I work part-time in a library and I’d always wanted more freedom to focus on writing, so I felt a twinge of anticipation at the prospect of having that. I am used to being the listener, not the talker. It is stealing your ability to create true connection with people you’d actually like to be close with. So yeah, you have to suck up the sour pill that you’re not as cool or smart or funny as you would like to be. So you have to put in what you want out. Just because, somebody isn't there for you everytime you need them doesn't make them not a real friend. I blame social media for making you always craving attention and being the center of it. It’s being completely raw and uncensored in front of somebody that you respect and admire. You’re malleable 19 year old self probably taught you the ins and outs of networking and how to engage in boring conversations for the sake of your career or other necessary relationships. I’m not going to go into details, but let’s just say I cried for about a week straight.